Saturday, December 4, 2010

Wanton Slut: The Whore Within

Slut and whore are words that carry negative connotations. Women displaying their sexual natures are discouraged by being labeled with these words. I've myself have been hurt by them in the past, however, they are words that can ring of love and freedom.

So, I'll share a little secret with you on how to achieve fulfillment as a real woman in a committed relationship: BE A WANTON SLUT WITH YOUR LOVER!

Sex is meant to be enjoyable for both parties. If you find that you are just going through the motions and hoping that sex is over soon, then it is time for you to perform an honest evaluation of yourself and your relationship. You are doing a disservice to your partner and, more importantly, yourself. Why give away any moments of your life? Especially mind-blowing orgasm moments.

There's nothing wrong with sharing your deepest fantasies with your partner and acting on them together. In fact, you NEED to. Stop being so uptight about acting like a slut and go for it. Face your preconceived notions about what it means to be a good woman and toss being a good girl out the window.

BE NAUGHTY!
When I was preparing for my trip to go spend a week in a hotel room with my man, I bought quite a few pieces of sexy lingerie. I also purchased a Catholic School Girl outfit, (and a flogger, but that's a topic for a whole other post). And I had fun with that outfit. I was a VERY naughty girl.

Because I was with the love of my life and a man I trust above all others I could let all my inhibitions go and be a fucking whore. I have never felt so sexy and powerful in my entire life.

IT'S OKAY TO BE SELFISH!
So many times we are more concerned with our lover's orgasm that we don't demand our own. About 75% of women have never experienced a vaginal orgasm, so get his mouth down there! If he doesn't know how, there are several instructional books, websites or videos for him to learn from. Or have him ask @Pussy_Whisperer. Keep him between your legs until you are thoroughly satisfied. Speak up and tell him what you like, what turns you on, what makes you come. The more explicit and dirtier word choices you use when telling him, the better.

BE A TEASE!
When was the last time you climbed across the table at breakfast to kiss your lover? Get to know your lover's body. Spend time kissing, licking and nibbling on the places that drive him crazy--then walk away. Make him beg. Reward him when he's good with sexual favors. When you're standing in the pasta aisle at the grocery store, kiss him and grab his cock. Keep him guessing you're going to do next. Unfetter your sexual nature and let it out to play.

PERFORM ORAL!
Now, admittedly I am a bit bias on this one because I LOVE performing oral, however, if you expect oral than you need to give it. I know there are a lot of women who don't like to give blow jobs. Really? What can be more stimulating than being in such full control of a man? Take your time and show some enthusiasm. The more you're into it, the more power you will have over him.

The most important thing is to be yourself without limits. The only limits you should have in your relationship are those defined between you and your partner, not ones that society, religion or your upbringing have placed on you. Seek freedom and always remember to have a safe word.

Slut? Whore? FUCK YEAH I AM!

8 comments:

  1. Well said ... and true!

    My wife and me - although we both were always quite openminded - have started to enjoy the benefits of wanton behaviour too for some months now ... and it even keeps getting better more and more. The best thing about it is that it's more her than me taking the initiative. There's nothing more stimulating than the woman, to whom you are in love with, obviously enjoying sex and getting naughty, audacious and selfish in sex.

    I also agree that "The more explicit and dirtier word choices you use when telling him, the better." But - as feeling submissive - I've encountered a problem:

    As much as we both enjoy dirty talking, it's much easier an her part (as the dominant) than on my side. I'd also like to contribute to the "dirty" atmosphere verbally, but talking dirty as a sub seems to be a contradiction in itself.

    How can the submissive part use "dirty" words, e. g. to refer to his mistress' private parts or to the action itself? Most dirty talk I know, is about cheering the other one or verbalizing how obvious it is that he/she "needs" it, that he/she is naughty/slutty/whorish etc. But - how on earth! - can a submissive say such things to his dominant? It simply doesn't fit.

    So ... are there any ideas, how the submissive part could use dirty talk too and become more wordy (besides the notorious "Yes, Mistress", "Thank you, Mistress" ...).

    rené

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  2. Excellent question, Rene. For us there is the understanding that he can say certain things during "play time" that would not otherwise be allowed. The most important thing is to sit down and discuss this to determine where your boundaries are and what she will permit. You also have to consider the fact that sometimes something may be okay or even encouraged during play that, on a different day, may anger her. Open communication will make it easier for you to know what she wants to hear out of your mouth.

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  3. GREAT POST baby!!!! I so love you, you dirty whore...er... Goddess ;) To embrace the yin and yang of yourself allows you to embrace it in others and have a full experience in lust, in love, and in life. Thank you for embracing your whore, it has allowed me to fully give you my everything as well. It is the truth we all seek. The honesty of that darkness as much as the light. Why deny ourselves anything when we can have everything we ever fantasize about? It is truly a shame so many, and I have met them, deny themselves true satisfaction and wholeness.


    Thank you for being my love. I worship you, ALL of you. That is the way it should be :)

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  4. Thank you very much for your answer! I'd like to deepen the exchange about this topic, but since I don't know any mail address of yours, I could only do it here ... and I think it wouldn't be good to usurp this threat.

    So just a short comment: My wife and I DO talk about this topic, completely open ... we have come so far together, that we both don't see a point in not being candid to each other. The problem is that we nevertheless didn't find a solution till now. My wife would like me to be more wordy, and she'd like to hear me using dirty talk, but she - as well as myself - don't see how to get this work in a FemDom atmosphere.

    And, as you stated in your excellent post, being naughty is the better the less you plan or consider every single word. It's way more hot, if it comes to your tongue the moment it comes to your mind. So fixing a "set of words/expression allowed to use" is limiting one's naughty thoughts ...

    I know very well, what I am speaking about: I'm constantly thinking, what to say and wether it would be good to say this or that popping into my mind. But deliberating so much (accompanied by the fear to say something inappropriate) is no good to enjoy dirty talk.

    rené

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  5. Rene, respond to this comment with your email address and I will be more than happy to discuss this subject with you that way.

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  6. Thank you very much! It's

    rene_kreidner AT yahoo.de

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  7. I am so right there with you! I have learned throughout time to embrace the slut/whore in me which took away the power for others to use those words against me!

    Much LoVe my soul sista!

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